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What is self-care? Or perhaps more importantly, what is it not?

Unfortunately, much of what we see promoted as self-care these days are really just temporary distractions. For example, we may come across social media posts that give us the permission to "do something that feels good" or "treat yourself." It's often shared with the best of intentions, in an attempt to have us feel like we're empowering ourselves.

But self-care, real self-care - can actually be quite hard.

Highly sensitive people (HSPs) often have a love/hate relationship with structure. Especially in our relationship with time. We love the freedom of doing what we want, when we want. But most of us have come to the realization that not having any structure actually prevents us from making consistent and sustainable progress towards the things we truly care about.

For example, if we care about our health, but only exercise when we feel like it - it's not difficult to see how…

ANGER occurs when we feel pushed to the edge of our boundaries. When we feel like our core values are being threatened or violated. It's kind of like a last-ditch effort for us to stand up for ourselves. We use anger to create distance between us and a perceived threat. It is a form of self-preservation.

Society often tells us that it's not okay to be angry. And as highly sensitive people (HSPs), we are often already characterized as being "overly" sensitive. Because of this, …