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Have you ever wondered why our relationships hold such immense power over us? It's because they serve as mirrors, reflecting what's unfolding within us. Whether it's the bond we share with a friend, partner, parent, child, or even encounters with strangers, every interaction becomes a chance for self-discovery.⁣

Think about it: the emotions stirred up by the people in our lives are not caused solely by their actions or words. They simply act as catalysts, awakening the inner emotions and e…

If you want to get fit, you can hire a personal trainer. They might share with you their knowledge of nutrition. Or, the correct form to use while doing particular exercises. If you want to learn how to play the piano, it’s relatively easy to find a good teacher these days, especially now with the Internet. If you want to learn how to improve your relationships, you can read books, watch YouTube videos, ask ChatGPT.

The point is, finding ways to develop these “external skills” is relativel…

Emotions, an integral part of the human experience, often bring discomfort and challenges. In an attempt to evade these uncomfortable feelings, we sometimes rely on intellectualizing emotions, using our minds as shields. However, this approach can hinder personal growth and understanding.

Intellectualizing emotions involves excessive analysis and rationalization, detaching us from the raw experience. By relying solely on cognitive processes, we create a mental distance that inhibits genuine…

Exploring focus in depth is important. Beth Raps and Mike Wang have long experience with focus in practice and share their thoughts as colleagues who coach each other into going deeper in life and work. Image: Jeremy Bishop

Beth G. Raps, PhD is the founder of RAISING CLARITY, and helps people reclaim our resources of time, money, focus, and mindset to claim our calling and our abundance.



Mike Wang helps people learn to develop practical skills and tools to dissolve the inner patterns th…

Each of us experiences our own version of reality. While there are objective facts about the world, such as: fall comes before winter and night comes after day - it is our life experiences that shape how we perceive and interpret those facts.

For example, one person might look forward to the coming of winter - since it’s an opportunity to finally go skiing, something that they love to do. While another person might dread winter because they hate the cold weather - and the roads are always …

Identity is what defines us and sets us apart from others. It includes things like our name, our physical features. Where we live, our job, our friends and family. It also includes personal characteristics like our values and beliefs - our sense of humor. There may be aspects of our unique makeup that we might not always share with others - like our deepest aspirations and desires.

I talk about identity because - in order for us to create something we want in life - we must first develo…

Do you consider yourself a high-performer? Many of my clients didn’t necessarily think so before we first started working together.

But I define “higher performers” as simply possessing 3 qualities. First is that they are someone who has the aspiration to improve their current situation in some aspect of life. Maybe they want to be a better parent. Or they want to improve their physical health. Or they want to see what they can accomplish as an entrepreneur.

Two, they are someone that is…

Many of us are really good about starting projects and goals. In the beginning, we can have a ton of enthusiasm. We might even come up with a gazillion different ideas we want to pursue. We dream about all the different ways life will be better once we finish a project - or achieve our goal.

But somewhere in between starting the project and finishing it - we can start to lose our motivation. So what are some strategies that we can use to sustain our motivation? How c…

Striving for excellence in all that we do, cultivates self-esteem.

Truly successful people always give their all to everything that they do. They derive their self-esteem from a sense of competency and care. They don't do things with little or only partial effort. They'll just choose to not do it all.

And if you think about it, this is the kind of self-esteem that is self-generated. Meaning, it's not dependent on external factors. For example, it's not something that can be taken…

In today's blog post, we're going to talk about what confidence is and how you can develop more of it.

But first - how can you tell if a person is confident? Is it by the way they look or how they dress or how they carry themselves? Is it someone that seems to know what they want out of life or has a "zero fucks given" attitude? If you look closely - not necessarily.

Society often leads us to see these external factors as indicators for us to determine whether someone is confiden…