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For many people, the word failure has a negative connotation. It's something most people are trying to avoid at all costs. It's an attitude of giving up - or the belief that we no longer have any personal power.

For example, we may feel like we're never going to be able to learn something. Or that something we really want is just never going to happen.

And of course, we've all gone through challenges and obstacles in life that don't turn out the way we want them to. Sometimes it'…

One of the main things that I've noticed which really makes or breaks our ability to reach our goals is consistency.

When we lack consistency, it's very unlikely that we'll be able to find meaningful success in life. In the physical realm, everything requires energy to either build or create. And where we direct our energy is determined by where we direct our focus. And where we direct our focus is that we ascribe value or meaning to in life.

So everything that we want to achieve…

I believe that one of the primary motivations we all have in life is to be free. To feel like we are able to be our authentic selves and go after the life we want without constraints. To have a sense of personal power, where we don't feel weighed down by our fears or the need to conform to the expectations of others or society.

It takes a lot of courage to do this. To live in our truth and feel that we are free to express ourselves fully - to express who we are, how we feel, and…

“Dost thou love life? Then do not squander Time; for that’s the Stuff Life is made of.”

― Benjamin Franklin from Poor Richard’s Almanack, 1746

As I've gotten older, I've become much more particular about how I spend my time. While making time for things that help us to recharge is especially important for us HSPs, the question to ask ourselves is whether we're doing these things "too much." Are the things we're spending time on true self-care? Or merely self-soothing? Are we …

In some circles, productivity has started to get a bad rep - especially in some spiritual development circles. They've associated productivity with some of the toxic aspects of hustle culture. Where productivity is seen as a way to fill a void within ourselves around self-worth, by doing as much as we possibly can. Or that our value is somehow dependent on what we do.

But I see productivity as merely our effectiveness at making, creating, or bringing forth something.

I believ…

I just have to scroll through my Facebook feed each day to catch a glimpse of some of the suffering going on in our world right now. Many of my Facebook friends are visibly distraught and anxious. They share articles, cartoons, memes - anything they can to show their friends how messed up they feel everything is. Underlying all of this is a sense of powerlessness and despair.

And this is understandable. It is understandable that we may feel powerless when we hear about an atroci…

Eastern philosophy talks about the impermanence of all things. That is the people in our lives, the places that we live, the experiences that we find ourselves in - are always changing. We can also look to the stars in the sky, the trees in the forests, the cells in our bodies. Everything is coming and going - being born and dying. It applies to everything in the physical realm and to all of human experience. Even in the West, Heraclitus said "the only constant in life - is change.…

One of the greatest contributions we can give to others is to help them grow. We help them grow - by empowering them. Empowering them to make positive changes in their lives. They are able to do this, when they are able to gain new insights or shift their perceptions.

This requires an openness from both sides. When we truly wish to help someone empower themselves, we also have to be open and come from a loving place. I'm sure you've all experienced times when someone you know is…

One of the most common struggles I hear from my HSP clients is how often they are feeling overwhelmed. So in this blog post, I want to share a quick "tool" to help overcome overwhelm, which is to simply apply the idea of creating a "temporary limit."

I'm personally a big fan of to-do lists. Every day, I have a to-do list with about a dozen tasks that I want to accomplish that day. But sometimes, when I'm looking at that long list in the morning of things I want to get done -…

Intellectualization is a defense mechanism in which we use our mind to try to keep ourselves from having to experience uncomfortable emotions. It's a kind of emotional suppression where we try to use the mind to analyze an emotion, understand why we're having the emotion, and then try to think of a way in which we don't have to experience the emotion anymore.

However, when we focus on what we don't want, we actually feed what we don't want with more energy and actually end up cr…