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Are you firm with yourself? Or are you gentle with yourself?

Well, for personal growth and things like productivity - you really need both. But you need to know when is the right time to apply one over the other.

I believe that we must be firm about showing up - but be gentle about the outcome.

Many of us have goals or other aspirations we want to achieve or manifest in our lives. Oftentimes these don't have external deadlines. Meaning, deadlines that are imposed upon us…

The pleasure principle is a term originally used by Sigmund Freud to characterize the tendency of people to seek pleasure and avoid pain. We naturally want to go away from pain, and in the direction of pleasure. In fact, for many people, their lives become entirely controlled by avoiding pain. They may live their whole life trying to avoid what they don't want.

Now, trying to avoid pain is very different than going in the direction of pleasure - or what we DO want. For example…

All of you have experienced inner peace at times in life. Even if they were for brief or short-lived periods. So if I asked you to imagine what inner peace feels like - some part of you would know what I'm pointing to. A big part of our personal growth path is learning how to access this feeling without being dependent on factors external to ourselves.

For example, if our inner peace is dependent on needing someone to behave in certain ways towards us - we will only be able to…

Some people have the idea that, if you're following your heart, or that you're living with purpose - life will always be fun and easy, or that you will always feel good.

This is not something I've personally experienced to be true. I believe all things come with a drawback or downside. It's like yin and yang - all positive things also come with a negative side.

Yes, we all want to feel good. We all want to be happy and at peace within ourselves and with others. In fact, I b…

In this blog post, I talk about how positivity can become toxic when we try to use it to deny or suppress our authentic emotions and experiences around a challenging situation.

We frequently see this on social media where influencers promote messaging such as "good vibes only" or "everything happens for a reason."

We're often led to believe that anything less than being happy all the time means that we've somehow failed at life. That our life doesn't measure up to what we s…

Do you have trouble following through on promises you make to yourself? Maybe you're committed to getting in shape but just can't seem to make it to the gym consistently. Or maybe you're trying to eat healthier but you keep reaching for that junk food. Being able to stick to your goals is not always about having more discipline and willpower.

We start each day having a finite amount of energy and other resources, such as time - to spend on all the different things we want to d…

Are you the person everyone calls when they need something? Do you often find yourself in situations where you’re always helping others in crisis? Do you volunteer to help others even when you don’t have the time or energy? Or even if you’re not the best person to help them?

Many of us struggle with always wanting to save others and “fight their fires,” whether they’re co-workers, family members, a partner, or complete strangers. While wanting to help others is certainly not a…

Have you ever dreaded having a difficult conversation with someone before? Unless you live by yourself in a cave, the answer is almost definitely "yes."

We often procrastinate or even try to avoid needing to have difficult conversations altogether. A part of us thinks, maybe, just maybe, things will resolve on its own.

That we don't actually need to speak our truth - or that the other person should just know how we feel and what we want. Of course, this rarely happens - so …

Do you find yourself spending a lot of time thinking through scenarios? Or maybe you spend hours upon hours making elaborate plans and schedules in an effort to help you reach your goals? Does it seem like no matter how thoroughly you think through everything you need to do - that you still don’t accomplish what you want by the end of the day? 

While it's important for us to plan and prepare in our daily lives, it can only get us so far. When we begin to spend more of our day …

Are you unable to say “no” to a party invitation - even if you have some work to do? Or have you ever come across a picture on Instagram that your friend has posted while on vacation and you desperately wish you were there with them instead of at your 9-5 job that you're not passionate about?

Those are examples of FOMO - the Fear Of Missing Out. When I Google FOMO - I come up with "anxiety that an exciting or interesting event may currently be happening elsewhere, often arouse…